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Maybe lately you've been feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or constantly needed.
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You might be more easily irritated or angry than you want to be—especially with your kids or partner. You might be second-guessing yourself, feeling guilty about how you've responded, or wondering why something that seems small can affect you so strongly.
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You may have some sense of where these feelings are coming from. Or you may not understand them at all.
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Either way, you don't have to figure it out before you come to therapy.
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Moving beyond simply getting through the day:
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βMy work isn't about giving you another explanation for why you feel the way you do. It's about creating enough space to slow down and become curious about what's happening underneath the reaction.
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Together, we might notice what happens in your body when your teenager pushes back, when your parent needs something from you, or when someone you love is disappointed in you.
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We might explore the feeling that comes just before the guilt-the need underneath the resentment. The part of you that wants to say no, but is already worrying about what will happen if you do.
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These moments can tell us a lot.
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Rather than judging the ways you've learned to cope, we'll get curious about what your reactions might be communicating—and what you might need in those moments.βββββββββββββββββββββββ
You don't have to leave yourself behind to stay connected
βββMany of us learn early that staying connected means adapting ourselves: keeping the peace, anticipating other people's needs, or being the responsible one.β
Over time, it can become difficult to know what you actually want or feel.
In therapy, we'll make space for both your need for connection and your need to be fully yourself.
We can work toward responding with more choice, rather than automatically falling into the patterns that once helped you feel safe and connected.βββ
How I work with these experiencesβ
My approach is relational, attachment-focused, parts-informed, and grounded in an understanding of the nervous system. I emphasize the therapy relationship, inviting experiential processing of what happens in the here and now.
I take a depth-focused approach, meaning we don't simply try to stop or change “negative” symptoms. Instead, we explore how these symptoms can be adaptations and defenses designed to protect you, often built from a very young age.β
Yes, your parents and childhood likely will come into session with us.β
This is because sometimes the experiences we're carrying don't feel fully in the past, even when we know they are. An approach like EMDR can help process what still feels trapped inside, so that the past can become something you remember rather than something your system continues to react to.β
Most importantly, I don't expect you to arrive already knowing what's wrong or what you need. We can discover that together.
βTherapy with me isn't about becoming a perfect parent, daughter, partner, or caregiver. βIt's about having more choice in how you show up—and making room again for the parts of yourself that may have gotten quieter while you were busy caring for everyone else.β
You can care deeply for the people you love without losing yourself in the process.
